Often, we make up excuses for our shortcomings and we blame it on our upbringing. But there is a better reason than finger pointing – it’s our ego talking.
Jeffrey Hull, author of the book, Shift: Let Go of Fear and Get Your Life in Gear, explains how and why our egos fight with our need for improvement.
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Better and better,
Laura
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Are We Hard-Wired To Suffer?
by Jeffrey Hull, Ph.D.
Yesterday I had one of those classic moments with a client that never fail to bring the conversation to a stand still. He was sharing with me his tendency to, as he put it, “always feel anxious and worried about everything.” At one point, with a shrug, he simply declared, “I’m just hard-wired to be anxious. I’ve always been this way.”
Really? Hard-wired to be anxious, worried and stressed-out? Not.
Have you looked at a baby lately? Or hung out with small children who are living in a secure home with at least one loving parent? In general, well-fed kids (poverty is another thing entirely) are relaxed, spontaneous, playful and full of life a good deal of the time. Since when did it become in vogue to blame our adult anxieties on so-called “hard-wiring?” What does “hard-wiring” mean anyway?
Yes, Ego is the problem, once we get out of it, we are totally free.