October 12, 2009

4 Ways To Fall In Love All Over Again

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Hey guys!

Today we’re going to do something really wonderful and beneficial. We are going to do a fun exercise and those of you who participate will receive a special gift.

Now here comes the fun part!

Here is what you have to do to make this exercise interesting:

  1. Think of the four most desirable qualities that you admire of your friends and family.
  2. Get a pen
  3. Write these positive qualities on each of your fingers (write  the words on the outside of your bottom 3 fingers and the inside of your index finger)
  4. Now point.
  5. Take a picture of your hand (similar to the photo example below)
  6. Leave the link to your photo in the comments

Below is a friends and my picture:

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So often we are our worst enemy. We can quickly list our faults before we can mention a positive quality about ourselves.

Previously, I have talked about how we sometimes like putting the blame on others, especially when it comes to our own misfortune. But did you realize that everytime you point one finger at someone else, you have three pointing back at you?

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The same holds true for positive qualities.

The beauty you see in others, is really a reflection of the beauty you see in YOU.

So what is the prize?

Last week, those of you who participated in the survey received the Silva Method’s Relaxation Series.

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The Relaxation Series contains 3 powerful exercises:

  1. 30 Minute Meditation on Deep Relaxation
  2. 15 Minutes Meditation on Deep Relaxation
  3. Sounds of Relaxation (this will help you meditate without my voice in the background)

For those of you who did not get to participate, you now have the chance to try it out.

So post below and I will personally send you the relaxation series!

Don’t forget to have fun while you’re doing it!

Cheers,

Jill

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  1. Gabe October 12, 2009 at 1:09 pm #

    Didn’t have a picture for it, but the 4 qualities I got were creative, smart, beautiful, and fun!

    It’s so true. when i really think about it, these are things I see in myself too.

  2. violet October 13, 2009 at 2:57 am #

    beautiful, patient, kind and sympathetic!

  3. joe October 13, 2009 at 3:49 am #

    honest,positive,caring,and funny

  4. grace October 13, 2009 at 4:32 am #

    honest, thoughtful, sense of humor and positive

  5. Russ October 14, 2009 at 5:07 am #

    Loving, exciting, funny, and open

  6. Darina October 14, 2009 at 2:52 pm #

    Open, reliable, musical, active

  7. Carla D. McDaniel October 14, 2009 at 7:53 pm #

    Spiritual & uplifting

  8. Wynne October 14, 2009 at 8:22 pm #

    helpful, happy, creative and grateful

  9. Rebecca October 14, 2009 at 9:44 pm #

    No camera, but the 4 qualities are:
    Caring…..Funny…..Imaginative…..Honest
    How fun!

  10. Rebecca October 14, 2009 at 9:45 pm #

    Caring…..Funny…..Imaginative…..Honest

  11. sonja Djipalo October 14, 2009 at 10:43 pm #

    funny caring thoughtful and genourous

  12. dave r October 14, 2009 at 10:48 pm #

    Positive – Positive people lift you up, and get you thru just about anything
    Caring – If its genuine, a caring person can make you feel like a million bucks
    Industrious- working steadfastly thru your responsibilities
    Truthful – to emulate the ways of God

  13. sonja Djipalo October 14, 2009 at 10:50 pm #

    funny, caring, thoughtful and generous

  14. mohammed nadir October 14, 2009 at 11:03 pm #

    Be fresh like a new born child

  15. Ninette October 14, 2009 at 11:40 pm #

    Integrity, sense of humor,loving and spontaneity

  16. Debra Cisneros October 15, 2009 at 12:24 am #

    I’m not tech-savvy and don’t know how to get photos on the internet at this time, but I have: FUN!, INTELLIGENT, CREATIVE, HOSPITABLE. :)

  17. Kathie October 15, 2009 at 12:34 am #

    Happy, content, secure, honest

  18. Sabrina October 15, 2009 at 12:43 am #

    Beautiful, Godly, Funny, Sincere.
    This was a great exercise. Thanks!

  19. Laura October 15, 2009 at 1:38 am #

    Wow, Jill, if you teach me how to take a photo and link it I will do so, otherwise these are the qualities that I admire the most in my relations:

    Being fully present
    Living life with joy
    Open minded
    Being of service

  20. Ruth October 15, 2009 at 1:42 am #

    No camera.
    Honest, Caring, Considerate, Industrious

  21. jackie October 15, 2009 at 1:42 am #

    Honest
    Loving Hugs
    Generous
    Kind

  22. Kathleen October 15, 2009 at 2:06 am #

    Honest
    Giving
    Sincere
    Loving

  23. Jerry Perlmutter October 15, 2009 at 2:14 am #

    These four apply to me too:
    open, direct, humorous and hard-working

  24. Daniel Hill October 15, 2009 at 2:37 am #

    This whole experience so far is a most wonderful unfolding of joy. The four thingds are Genuine, Joyful, Loving ,Funny

  25. Kim P October 15, 2009 at 2:49 am #

    Honest, Good sense of humor, compassionate, loyal.

  26. Caroline P October 15, 2009 at 3:31 am #

    This is a really neat exercise to help me remember the good in myself!

  27. ann October 15, 2009 at 6:09 am #

    What a coincidence I was just looking at that song in a song book and those lyrics stood out to me also! The exercise made me feel childlike as of late I have been all work and no play. I am learning to look for the best in everyone no matter what!

  28. Kris October 15, 2009 at 6:09 am #

    This is a great exercise that reminds me that we are mirrors of each other.

  29. Babu October 15, 2009 at 7:04 am #

    It is great

    VBabu

  30. Larry October 15, 2009 at 7:15 am #

    Hi Laura,
    I think you are doing fabulous work.Thank you for giving all
    of us the opportunity to participate in the Spirit of Life.
    My qualities are, Loving,Kind,Caring and considerate.
    Namaste,
    Larry

  31. Jimmy October 15, 2009 at 7:40 am #

    smarts, ambition, loving.

  32. Silvia October 15, 2009 at 9:24 am #

    So often we are only reminded that the faults we see in others are the faults we dislike about ourselves.

    It’s a refreshing surprise (and for the first time ever for me) that I am reminded that the beauty I see in others, is the beauty in me.

    Humourous, Loving, Passionate, Spirited.

  33. Funmilola October 15, 2009 at 9:48 am #

    Keep on rousing human consciousness that love is the greatest. Thank you.

  34. Grace October 15, 2009 at 9:50 am #

    Gracious, evolved, loving and wise

  35. Shankar October 15, 2009 at 10:14 am #

    The index finger is also called the accusing finger – as we all learnt this during our childhood. But we never thought that it could be used for positive thoughts also!
    That was great, Laura.

    Shankar, India

  36. todd October 15, 2009 at 10:36 am #

    the camera is not joining us this morning i came up with greatful caring loving and thoughtful. I wrote them on my fingers anyway. one so i could see it .ill leave it there this morning so it can be passed to anyone who asks, let the circle be unbroken.

  37. Jo Spaczynska October 15, 2009 at 11:33 am #

    Enjoyed exercise, good food for thought. Tried taking photo but not clear enough as I chose long words and fingers are not long enough,
    Appreciative
    empathetic
    passionate
    humorous
    Thank you, peace and joy, Jo

  38. AJ BOYD October 15, 2009 at 1:16 pm #

    NO PHOTO, BUT I GOT FUNNY, CARING, GENEROUS, HONEST

  39. AJ BOYD October 15, 2009 at 1:17 pm #

    HONEST, GENEROUS,SPIRITUAL

  40. AJ BOYD October 15, 2009 at 1:18 pm #

    IT IS WONDERFUL AND ENLIGHTENING
    AJ

  41. AJ BOYD October 15, 2009 at 1:21 pm #

    HAVE NO PHOTO, BUT I GET GENEROSITY, OPENING UP, HONESTY

    AJ

  42. Danielle October 15, 2009 at 1:22 pm #

    Four qualities are: Giving, Loving, Joyous, and Spiritual.
    Thanks Laura for this great exercise.

  43. azalea clemmons October 15, 2009 at 1:29 pm #

    Sorry I missed first session but I really do want a piece of this pie. Thanks, peace and love Azalea

  44. azalea clemmons October 15, 2009 at 1:30 pm #

    It is great.

  45. billo October 15, 2009 at 2:17 pm #

    i dont have photo but generous, loving, caring and giving come to mind.

  46. pia October 15, 2009 at 2:24 pm #

    hi, lacking the photo as well, but the bottom fingers are
    honesty, good sense of humour, caring and the index pointy finger is growth. not bad….mirroring exercise so! I’m glad you showed us this, may I use it somewhere? I do some part time adult teaching..?

  47. robert francis October 15, 2009 at 3:12 pm #

    passionate proactive smiley and giving

  48. robert francis October 15, 2009 at 3:16 pm #

    laura try giving kindness away it usually gets returned

  49. Janeen October 15, 2009 at 5:27 pm #

    wow what a WONDERFUL thing to do this makes perfect sense. Thankyou so much!!!! To put a positive thought to yourloved ones will be quite an asset.

  50. Bob Allison October 15, 2009 at 6:10 pm #

    mine would be Loving,considerate,putting one second and thankful.No three fingers can point back at you with these in friends family OR…..YOU.

  51. Bob Allison October 15, 2009 at 6:12 pm #

    Love,consideration and thankfulness is all you can want.

  52. Cheryl October 15, 2009 at 7:32 pm #

    Wow! You made me think and understand so much in this little exercise. Four are not enough….intelligent, kind, independent, and possessing a good sense of humour.

    I have come a long way after an abusive marriage…………..

    Thanks!

  53. Shelley October 15, 2009 at 8:14 pm #

    4 Qualities: Spiritual, loving, kind, and exuberant.

    4 more characteristics: alive, awake, compassionate, fun-loving

    Sometimes you need both hands to list the positive qualities of those you love

  54. Clarita October 15, 2009 at 9:03 pm #

    Organized.
    Energetic and friendly.
    Generous.
    Very smart and well spoken.

  55. susan October 15, 2009 at 9:22 pm #

    No camera

    Loving
    Thoughtful
    Honest
    Loyal

  56. Laura Silva October 16, 2009 at 12:20 am #

    Of course you can,

    I am very happy with the overwhelming response to this exercise! It just goes to show how we often forget how wonderful we are.

    Better and Better,

    Laura

  57. Nanor October 16, 2009 at 2:50 am #

    caring, funny, loving, always there for you

    thanks for the exercise…i needed it

  58. Margot October 16, 2009 at 4:45 am #

    Thank you! Great exercise! These are mine: honest, grateful, loving/caring, joyful.
    Thank you, Laura, for touching the lives of so many people, including mine!

  59. Debbie October 16, 2009 at 5:43 am #

    compassionate, funny, easy going, loving

  60. joseph tomy October 16, 2009 at 9:02 am #

    it is wonderful

  61. Jody October 16, 2009 at 12:56 pm #

    I don’t know how to put photos onto the computer but this exercise really makes you think. Its nice to take time and apprieciate the qualities. Thankyou

    Loyal, sincere, grateful and thankful.

  62. Ro October 16, 2009 at 1:59 pm #

    honest, loyal, caring, funny

  63. Linda H October 16, 2009 at 5:47 pm #

    Practical, insightful and easy. Shows good results.

  64. Beth October 16, 2009 at 5:52 pm #

    A great exercise for self esteem and fun

  65. Mary October 17, 2009 at 1:05 am #

    Laura please send me the relaxation series. I never got then.
    Thank you very much.
    Love.
    Mary

  66. kelly kelly October 17, 2009 at 2:48 pm #

    thanks, i needed a reminder, my husband has been trying me lately!

  67. Ingrid October 17, 2009 at 11:41 pm #

    Inner Beauty
    loving
    kind
    interested

  68. Angie October 18, 2009 at 12:21 am #

    patient,hard-working,compassionate,kind

  69. teresa October 18, 2009 at 7:41 am #

    the four I came up with were
    reliable
    uplifting
    honest
    creative,
    we need to remind each other of iur positive traits on a daily basis! Thanks for the exercise it was fun!!

  70. Salvador October 18, 2009 at 3:59 pm #

    I’ve seen this process work in my life before. Thanks for reminding me to appreciate the good within myself in order to appreciate more the good within others.

  71. Sherry October 18, 2009 at 7:26 pm #

    thoughtful,positive,caring,and kind

  72. James October 18, 2009 at 8:41 pm #

    /
    /
    ====== loving
    caring
    thoughtful
    caring
    ==

    Sorry no camera

  73. Adam October 19, 2009 at 12:39 am #

    I would expect from me and my partner the following:
    - soft & carrying
    - smart
    - fun
    - creative & positive
    And a general rule “Do not try to change your partner to your requirements”.

  74. Carlotti October 19, 2009 at 1:28 am #

    motivating
    kind
    smiley
    trustworthy

    Loved the exercise.Very helpful.
    Thanks.

  75. Micheal Dunham October 19, 2009 at 2:24 am #

    Kind, enthusiastic, aware and wise, not necessarily in that order.

  76. Mina October 19, 2009 at 5:27 am #

    Samart, optimistic, strong, kind

    really tnx for your service….I am from Iran…

  77. Ingrid October 19, 2009 at 7:16 am #

    Inner consciousness, kind, loving, honest

  78. Jose October 19, 2009 at 8:13 am #

    Please send me the relaxation series.
    Thanks

  79. SHAN October 19, 2009 at 2:56 pm #

    loving, caring & sharing

  80. SHAN October 19, 2009 at 2:56 pm #

    loving caring & sharing

  81. John October 19, 2009 at 6:31 pm #

    I like people who are Real, respectfull, kind and considerate to others.

  82. Antonio October 19, 2009 at 6:54 pm #

    Can you please send me the relaxation series?
    Thanks.

  83. Kathy October 20, 2009 at 2:32 am #

    Everytime I visit your multiple blogs and web sites, I feel inspired to be better and better. I thank you so much for everything you are doing to assist all people. I wish everyone in the world would visit your sites so that they too can enjoy the benefits.

  84. Alice October 20, 2009 at 6:57 pm #

    Laura, thank you and your father, Mr. Jose Silva, for the wonderful work both of you have done to help people.

  85. aisha October 21, 2009 at 11:07 am #

    dependable,caring,honest and loving

  86. Carol October 22, 2009 at 3:24 am #

    loving,loyal, witty, open

  87. Carol Aron October 22, 2009 at 3:25 am #

    witty, kind, loyal, open

  88. Kristen October 22, 2009 at 6:47 am #

    Don’t have a photo, but got loving, intelligent, compassionate and sense of humor. Very thought provoking!

  89. Maura October 22, 2009 at 6:57 pm #

    Awesome exercise! Thank you so very much! ~

    Integrity, Humor, Loving, Caring

  90. Stanton October 23, 2009 at 11:59 am #

    Caring
    Fun
    Sincere
    Passionate

  91. Elizabeth October 23, 2009 at 7:44 pm #

    Four qualities I admire in others:

    prayerful, good sense of humor,carng and grateful

  92. iwoye-ofori igani October 24, 2009 at 12:35 am #

    No camera,but the qualities are,prayerful,loving,caringand hardworking.

  93. June October 24, 2009 at 4:39 pm #

    I enjoy all of the newsletters. thankful, kind, questioning, open

  94. Angela Horn October 25, 2009 at 4:26 pm #

    Hi Jill

    Please can you send me the relaxation series.

    Thanks :-)

  95. Angela Horn October 26, 2009 at 7:08 pm #

    Okay…sorry for earlier blonde moment. If I’d read through the post properly I’d have realised I was supposed to take a photo and post the link :-)

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/42158057@N07/4046890539/

  96. Darlene October 29, 2009 at 2:26 am #

    Wise,fun,drop dead gorgeous and caring.Yes it is nice to think about people in this positive light.

  97. David October 29, 2009 at 6:29 am #

    Open
    humble
    honest caring

  98. Kat October 30, 2009 at 12:18 am #

    wiity honest open and caring

  99. Kat October 30, 2009 at 12:22 am #

    witty, honest, open, and caring

  100. Merle McGann October 30, 2009 at 3:09 am #

    Thank you for this. My words were Truth/Honesty/Laughter/FUN
    and yes indeed these are qualities I try to live by. Laura, I am particularly pleased to hear Vishen acknowledge Silva in this way. I have been to two conferences where he has been a speaker and while I know he’s a Silva Graduate, he has now honestly said, he owes a lot to Silva! I was waiting to hear that! I attended Engage Today and was pleased he did speak a bit of Silva, and I must say he did a marvelous job speaking there. You should get him to show you how he had us singing!!! It was unbelieveable! P.S. I too have done several Silva courses online……there is so much I wish I could talk to you about including being practising Catholic. Thank you (ALL) for your work.

  101. Ritha Luiten November 2, 2009 at 7:19 pm #

    open,caring,humor and loving.

  102. Larry November 2, 2009 at 10:33 pm #

    honest, sweet loving, happy

  103. Terrisa November 3, 2009 at 2:25 pm #

    Honest,open,funny, kind

  104. loverel November 3, 2009 at 4:57 pm #

    Hi Laura,

    Great exercise…:-)

    My four qualities were:

    Loving, Reliable, Funny & Humorous..!

  105. Bev November 3, 2009 at 9:47 pm #

    Honest, positive, caring and reliable

  106. Bev Morrison November 3, 2009 at 9:48 pm #

    Honest, positive,caring and reliable

  107. Kelly November 15, 2009 at 7:04 am #

    The four most desirable qualities that I admire in my husband: Generous, Takes Action, Intelligent, Can do anything he decides he wants to do.
    In my daughter: Loving, Creative, Wise, Giving

  108. Ayesha November 16, 2009 at 7:18 pm #

    It is a wonderful exercise. The four most desirable qualities in my family members are patient, caring, thoughtful, creative.

  109. Anthony December 30, 2009 at 12:44 am #

    Loving, Creative, kind, and happy.

  110. Barbara March 3, 2010 at 11:26 pm #

    I have learned that I am my harshest critic. there is an inner critic that is a liar so says Don Miguel Ruiz. Loving, dependable, loyal and tenacious in my quest for the truth about life are the 4 qualities I admire. :)

  111. Jackie April 14, 2010 at 4:40 pm #

    Honest, Loving, Giving & Always looking out for others!

  112. Jones April 14, 2010 at 6:59 pm #

    Hi Laura & Team, Great idea, really caters for the modern person – quick, thought provoking and fun!
    My 4 qualities highly valued are:

    1) Professionalism
    2) Talent
    3) Thinker
    4) Soul(mate)

    Thanks again for this great tool, I was aware of the idea but never took timeout to apply it to myself.
    Cheers!

  113. marlene June 21, 2010 at 1:22 am #

    TRURTFUL,HILARIOUS,CARING

  114. Shubhi July 1, 2010 at 4:41 pm #

    Loving, Funny, Caring, Joyful.

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  116. Kevin June 21, 2012 at 2:31 am #

    Compassion, Happiness, Love, Openness. …wishing peace, love, light and happiness to you all.